Before writing this, I have been absent the past three days and haven’t posted anything. The reason for this is why I feel compelled to share what I am today. It is a very important subject that I don’t feel many in enlightenment are talking about. We live in the real world and just because one becomes enlightened or more aware of their life, doesn’t mean they are not a human that lives on planet Earth. How is it we can live in the present moment and still feel the pain from a major loss of a loved one? Let’s explore that, shall we?
As many of you know by now, I lost my wife in October 2019. As of this writing, that was just a short six months ago. “Wow, a whole six months? You should be over it by now. Get on with your life.” We have all heard people say those things. Nothing could be further from the truth. Yes, I am getting on with life, but the fact that the love of my life is no longer here, doesn’t just go away. How does one cope with that sense of loss, but also stay in awareness of the present moment and not constantly live in the pain of the past?
Becoming aware of who and what we are, our true nature and Being, isn’t like some magic pill we take that fixes everything and makes all our experiences go away. In fact, it is quite the opposite. We become more aware of every experience we are having in our reality. We become hyper aware since we now experience everything in our lives through the lens of conscious awareness. This doesn’t lessen the pain of losing a loved one.
We all experience what we perceive as good and bad in our lives. Good and bad are just labels or stories we tell ourselves, but it doesn’t make them any less real to us when we experience them. It is too easy to fall into the trap of telling ourselves, “I am enlightened so I shouldn’t be feeling this or that.” You are still a human being, living in a physical body with all that entails. You have thoughts, emotions, and physical processes that do not cease to function now that you have become more aware of who you are. No, you just experience all these things fully and are more engaged with life and existence.
Don’t be so hard on yourself. This life’s journey is only something to be experienced. We will all have positive and negative things happen to us, this will not change, at least while we live in this flesh and bone body. Learn to live with what you are feeling. Sit with it, cry if you need to cry, let what comes happen. Just let it Be. Just Be. There is no right or wrong way in dealing with it. Just let it pass through you and live the moment, even if it is pain. It is a part of this human experience we are all having. Live it, learn from it. It is okay to have those sad moments, just don’t let it define who you are. You are complete Awareness. You are a being of Love. You Are That.
Love and Light
- This topic will be expounded on more in the book I am currently writing. This is more for encouragement to those who may be on a spiritual awakening, but are also going through the loss of a loved one.